Conversations

We've probably all heard it many times,

"The most important part of a relationship is the communication."

If you can't effectively communicate, there isn't a whole lot of hope. This takes work, diligence, and patience. It's an art. And it's certainly not something that you learn overnight or master in a week. This is an on-going lifetime process.

My husband and I have decent communication. As with many marriages, we have our times where it breaks down but for the most part, I feel like I can get my point across without too much weeping and gnashing of teeth. This whole overhaul thing in our lives right now is helping improve our communication as well.

Twice this week, we have sat down and discussed things in detail. These could range from spiritual matters to finances. We have discussed it all in the past 10 days. During one such conversation, I opened up my Bible study to him. I talked to him about what I was reading, about how I perceived it, about the things that I felt I needed to change. It's one thing for me to do a self-evaluation. After all, I could be lying to myself. I could give myself an eight and he thinks I'm really a four.

I must admit, I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation Tuesday night. As we walked through the things that I have learned in my study thus far, it was really nice to have encouragement about the things I was doing right. It was also nice to have constructive criticism about the things he perceived as issues. Why shouldn't he have an opinion or a say when what I'm working on? Everything I'm learning will effect him more than anyone else.

Needless to say, it was very productive and enjoyable. As we sat and prayed together on the couch, I was reminded again just how much I love that man. He could have been very destructive and tore me apart because heaven knows, I'm far from perfect! Instead, everything he said was softly spoken with love.

Communication is vitally important. You can be blessed as we were or bruised and battered. Thankfully it was the former. The growth that I've seen in just the last 10 days has been phenomenal. It's amazing the blessings that God will give us if we just try seeking His face!